Oceans

"The world is my imagination" once wrote Artur Shopenhauer. 

Sometimes, when I find a moment for reflection, which has been less and less lately, these words come back to me. In moments of unstable emotions, turns, ambiguous assessments of the situation... 

It is a real art to separate yourself from your self in moments of unstable emotions and look at yourself from a different perspective. Am I assessing the situation correctly? Are the moments I record perhaps passed through the prism of my thoughts and then subjected to subjective evaluation? 

We almost always evaluate moments from this perspective. We surrender to an all-encompassing force that later guides our behaviour. 

However, sometimes it is worth considering whether a given situation can be read differently. Is it possible to look for clues that will change the prism. 

I am convinced that most of the misunderstandings we experience in life are the result of misreading situations. 

Another factor that has a huge impact on our understanding of the surrounding world is the fact that we try to read the other person less and less. It is a disease of the 21st century. We focus so much on ourselves, our own experiences, self-realization that the other person slowly disappears. It becomes transparent. And yet the other man is part of us. Anyone can exist alone. But coexistence in a relationship with another person is, in my opinion, the driving force for the existence of each of us. Entering into relationships makes me not I AM, but I AM BECOMING. Who I become depends on the quality of these relationships. Toxic relationships destroy. Good relationships build. 

So why do we spend so little time reading the other person? Why do we care so little about a factor that affects us so much? Perhaps this is the result of the fact that we do not like to talk about our emotions. 

I like talking to my sons about emotions. Although I probably do it far too rarely (like many other things). I am convinced that talking about emotions will teach them in the future how to read them and that it is important to talk about them. The words "I love you" should be addressed to our children every day. And every day without saying those words is a wasted day. However, this is part of a longer topic that slightly touches the sense of security of children, which I may write about in the future. 

Back to the merit. 

Is the world my imagination? Probably so. Do I have an impact on my perception of this world?

 Definitely! 

Every single reflection, confronting our assessment of the situation in a conversation, not giving in to emotions (you need to analyse them, but not let them negatively affect our assessment of reality) will cause our understanding of the surrounding reality and thus our idea of it to change. 

Why Oceans? 

They can be majestic, beautiful and life-giving, but also untamed, dangerous, rough and deadly - just like our thoughts. 

And a quote at the end:

 "Man cannot discover new oceans until he has the courage to lose sight of the shore." – Andre Gide